Well it’s exactly one month until our wedding day! When I look back over the last 5 months since our engagement, I’m reminded how quickly time flies. Since the beginning of the engagement I said I would blog my insights, well I’m about 5 months behind…but here we go anyway!
Love Changes You
I realize that I am not the same woman that I was before I met my fiance. Truthfully, I’m not the same woman I was when we started dating at the top of 2009. Heck, I’m not the same woman he proposed to in April! I was a very assertive, confident, decisive, focused, and ambitious woman. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still all of those things; but I was also inflexible and impatient. (My mother would say that I’m still inflexible and impatient!) But my goodness, God has worked miracles in me. I am amazed how God is teaching me to hold my tongue, humble myself, and even deny myself!
I’ve discovered that while healthy relationships add tremendous value to a person’s life, they also demand work and attention. Everyday one must reevaluate motives, renegotiate outcomes, and reconsider philosophies and principles (to name a few) so that you take the very best of who you are into a relationship with someone who offers you the very best of who they are.
Question: Are you offering the very best of who you are to those you love and cherish?
In our lives of multi-tasking, overcommitting, and stretching thin, it is so very easy to give those we love and cherish what’s left over. I used to be that way. Then God placed me alongside a revelation of God’s divine love for me, alongside my “answered prayer request” and I discovered that leftovers are not appealing. Everyday I make a decision to be the best me that I can be, not because it will benefit me, but because the one I love deserves it.
Have you ever been in a situation where you stepped outside of yourself, looked at yourself and said, “Is that really me?” I feel like that everyday. I can’t believe that God has blessed me with this indescribable gift of love and commitment. When I’m honest with myself about my frailties, weaknesses, and faults, I’m amazed that God chose me for this blessing. If you’re single, you may be thinking, “C’mon, it can’t be that serious!” Trust me, it is! This was worth waiting for!
Blog with you soon!
September 18th, 2009 at 7:53 am
Congratulations on you Wedding…. Thank you for you words of encouragement. And I know that God will grant me a “this was worth waiting for” moment. Until then I will continue to live a upright christian single live. I pray God’s blessings on your marriage. YOU DESERVE IT~
September 18th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
Hi Soror!
You were on my mind today and I figured I’d check out your website to see what you’ve been up to and I find out you’re ENGAGED!!! Praise God! I am so happy for you. I’m sure your fiance is a wonderful man of God. And I see God did a quick work since you said you two started dating at the beginning of the year. That’s the way it was for me and my husband. We dated for 7 months and got engaged and married 6 months later. Congratulations and I can’t wait until you come back to Cleveland again!
First Lady Danita Harris Pratt
Fresh Wind Ministry-Cleveland, OH
October 14th, 2009 at 7:43 am
Hello Pastor Janae,
It’s been a long time. I spoke with Alfred and he told me of your upcoming nuptials. Congratulations to you. I am so Godly proud of who you’ve grown to be in the Lord, but definitely not surprised! I googled you {:-)} to find you and I’m overwhelmed by what God is doing in your life. Please keep in touch. I love you and my hopes are only for the best for you as begin your new life. God Bless you Woman of God. May His Peace be with you and His Grace remain.
Minister Akowa Willis
Church of the Living God CWFF #69
Detroit, MI