Pastor Janae’s Blog

Well it’s exactly one month until our wedding day! When I look back over the last 5 months since our engagement, I’m reminded how quickly time flies. Since the beginning of the engagement I said I would blog my insights, well I’m about 5 months behind…but here we go anyway!

Love Changes You

I realize that I am not the same woman that I was before I met my fiance. Truthfully, I’m not the same woman I was when we started dating at the top of 2009. Heck, I’m not the same woman he proposed to in April! I was a very assertive, confident, decisive, focused, and ambitious woman. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still all of those things; but I was also inflexible and impatient. (My mother would say that I’m still inflexible and impatient!) But my goodness, God has worked miracles in me. I am amazed how God is teaching me to hold my tongue, humble myself, and even deny myself!

I’ve discovered that while healthy relationships add tremendous value to a person’s life, they also demand work and attention. Everyday one must reevaluate motives, renegotiate outcomes, and reconsider philosophies and principles (to name a few) so that you take the very best of who you are into a relationship with someone who offers you the very best of who they are.

Question: Are you offering the very best of who you are to those you love and cherish?

In our lives of multi-tasking, overcommitting, and stretching thin, it is so very easy to give those we love and cherish what’s left over. I used to be that way. Then God placed me alongside a revelation of God’s divine love for me, alongside my “answered prayer request” and I discovered that leftovers are not appealing. Everyday I make a decision to be the best me that I can be, not because it will benefit me, but because the one I love deserves it.

Have you ever been in a situation where you stepped outside of yourself, looked at yourself and said, “Is that really me?” I feel like that everyday. I can’t believe that God has blessed me with this indescribable gift of love and commitment. When I’m honest with myself about my frailties, weaknesses, and faults, I’m amazed that God chose me for this blessing. If you’re single, you may be thinking, “C’mon, it can’t be that serious!” Trust me, it is! This was worth waiting for!

Blog with you soon!

Comments (3) Sep 18 2009